Are you ready for some ways to refuse to feel miserable and feel good? Let's check out some key approaches to feeling good. Have you ever noticed how some people seem to stay happy no matter what happens around them, good or bad? At the same time, have you noticed that some people rind a way to be unhappy, no matter what happens around them, good or bad? How do these folks look at and experience the same world, and come up with completely different emotional responses? One of the major differences between people who are consistently unhappy and those who are consistently happy is the matter of focus. There are always enough negatives around us on which to focus. But at the same time, there are always enough positives on which to focus. You can learn to change your focus What I have noticed is that the people who stay consistently happy have changed their focus to thepositive in fife. Am I saying that we should, never feel bad? Of course not. What I am saying is this: There is a difference between feeling appropriately and usefully angry, sad, scared, etc. and feeling inappropriately and destructively unhappy most of the time. The people who have learned to change their focus have been able to ask themselves some very useful questions, such as: How much of this do I want to feet? How long do I want to fed this way? What is good about this situation? What can I learn from what is happening? How can I prevent it from happening in the future? How can I make this work for me? Two other key questions seem to orient these people toward the positive in life. What am I looking forward to in life? This is a key question for people who struggle with depression. It's crucial to have something, or many things, to took forward to. What am I grateful for in life? People who approach life with an attitude of gratitude seem t0 be consistently happy. It you recognize ymrself in any of the ways of feeling miserable, you might want to try a little experiment. For just a day or two, try shifting your focus by asking yourself some of these questions. |
