Yes but
When people are complaining on their own life, on their every suggestion proposed for improvement, they answer with: Yes but, and exactly that sentence is the repulsion or accepting new views. Thats why next time when youll encounter an obstacle, do it exactly the opposite, maybe in front of you will open some new gates of life. According the psychologists the basic of this kind of obstacles most often are:
Tiredness
Ask your-self how old you feel? If you answer is that you are old enough, know that the tiredness prevents you from taking new changes. The tiredness can be the cause of lack of physical energy, loss of psychic energy and emotional emptiness. That way you are just a one step to depression, because with a lack of will and tired body you cant feel passion in nothing. Right now try to repel the depression. If in the mornings you wake up more tired then when you have got asleep, or after the summer holiday you are still tired without wish to change something, to cause joy, best way is to consult with some professional or medic.
Prohibitions
A lot of people the life experience have imposed prohibitions of excitement and happiness. Maybe you have learned that way from the parents, the religion and maybe you have been in a negative company for a long time. Spend a little time digging in the causes of the life prohibitions you have. We are all used to avoid situations where we could be ashamed and criticized. In order to fortify how much you are relied on the thinking of others, ask yourself these three questions:
- If its not important to me the thinking or others, what should I do?
- If I knew that it wouldnt be revealed to the others, I would make...?
- If I was sure that its the right choice, I would do?
If in the answers you have noticed things youve never done and which in you raise happiness, smile and dynamism, then for sure you are the one which makes the obstacles and the boundaries. If you are not pleased with your job, maybe its better to change it. Or if it bothers you that your partner will leave you, talk with him/her, because that kind or thinking in your relationship means displeasure. Thats why its better to clear those problems in as soon as you can. Its worst that a lot of people dont accomplish their ambitions in a way which they could develop full confidence in them selves. Remember what are the things youve wanted to make and obstacles you have created for those things. If your wishes are not against your moral and ethics values, then strive to accomplish them, but at the beginning dont tell anyone about it, especially those ones which are going to criticize and despair you. Dont seek for help and support from those who have contributed for your failure. Its better to share the wishes and the hopes with the people which would react positively. It needs just a little effort and courage to discover the new life joy.
Fears
You need to have influence in yourself in order to gain self-confidence and to free from your fears. Its best to accept the situation in which you are. Be aware for your fears but dont resign on then. Dont let sadness overwhelm you and follow your dreams even if you are most afraid and lost. Its not sad with any purpose that, the one who risk, that one will most take advantage of it. Do the one which you wish for, the one you thing its special for you and cause pleasure in you. Try to approach on the life by some other aspect, dont let the surrounding stop you. With accepting the new challenges there is probability that you will loose, but the chances are greater that you will draw out yourself the everyday life. When youll face with yourself, you lacks, your desires, your hidden hopes, then you are on the right way to begin a new life. The battle with yourself is the hardest one, but its not impossible. |
