You should show a tolerant and open-minded attitude towards many subjects. Imagine the following sentences: A: "All bugga-huggawoks always make trouble. I hate them"
B: "Bugga-huggawoks are often difficult. Some of them are OK though".
Now, whatever bugga-huggawoks are, sentence B seems to be more reasonable. If you start sentences like A and insist that there are no exceptions and get angry then - you involve yourself in an uneasy talk
- you show intolerant temper
- you show extreme attitudes ("all", "always","hate")
- you show that you have less knowledge than someone who says sentence B (because he knows good bugga-huggawoks and you don't)
- you show that you have little experience, since there are always exceptions, but you never encountered them
- since you have little experience you are a prejudiced hater ("I hate them")
- you don't admit that you are wrong most probably
- you show sarcasm and negativity and that tells that you are probably on the losing side of life (see Don't symbolize a loser)
ANYTHING that can cause YOU a bad mood or HER a bad mood should be avoided (unless you are self-confident enough to make her smile again). Please also read and Don't be a Crybaby.
Maybe the only exception (where you actually CAN say that you hate something) are "spiders". Women usually hate spiders/bugs/midges/... too. But don't forget to add "I usually kill them whenever I see them" to become her hero :-)
Moreover, don't start fights. Fights are something you do not want to have in a human-human relationship. Fights have winners and losers. But you shouldn't want to make your partner lose. Nor your partner you. Do some "peaceful negotiating" where everybody wins instead.
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