This week let's talk about love. It's one of the most wonderful experiences on earth. It has its positives and its negatives and it's not all roses sometimes. I want to give you some advice about love and how to handle love. Let's get one misconception about love out of the way first of all. Don't fall into the trap thinking that love will solve all your problems and make your life perfect. And don't get into the rut of thinking that your life is incomplete without love and you must be involved in a relationship to be happy. Nothing could be further from the truth. Some guys make the mistake of thinking that being single is terrible and being in a relationship is the only way to feel complete and happy. This is just not true. You can be just as happy single as you can being coupled. It's entirely up to you! Some more love advice is to not look at love through rose-colored glasses thinking a good relationship is only characterized by walks along the beach, gazing into each other's eyes, wild and intense sex all the time, holding hands all the time, romantic dinners, kissing all the time, etc. What I'm trying to say is to not get too worked up and overly romantic about love. If you do, you could be in for a rude awakening about love when it does finally come your way. You see, all this heavy romance in the soap operas and movies. Well my friend, in real life it's just not that way most of the time. After the initial infatuation wears off, then the reality of love sets in. Things aren't as intense and once you get to know each other, your faults and bad habits come out. And of course, you now have to work at maintaining your relationship. You have to keep the fires burning so to speak. During the infatuation stage things happened so naturally and you were in another world. Now, you have to put in a lot of effort to keep that love strong. In closing, love is what makes the world go around. Cherish it when it comes around and while it lasts. If it doesn't last, then bury it in your past and move on. I'm a firm believer in this statement: "It is better to have loved and lost at love than to have never loved at all." Memorize this statement and make it your own personal creed. |
